Sunday, February 26, 2012

Stop Stealing My Spot!

Dear Jocelyn,
Most of the time I get out of my chair or get out of bed my husband moves into my spot. I have asked him not to do this many times. His reply is, "Well I was going to get up as soon as you got back". Am I being too territorial or is his behavior strange?
     -Want My Spot Back

Dear Spot,
There is a lot of context that is missing that would help here. For example, does he get up from his chair and move into yours? Is he coming in from another room and taking your spot? Does he actually move quickly out of your seat when you come back?

No matter what the answers, yes, your husband's behavior is strange. Whether he is being quirky or passive-aggressively a jerk is dependent upon these answers. For now, let's assume the best. Let's say your husband is simply a bit odd and quirky. You can take one of these approaches:

 -when he does this, come back and sit in his lap. Don't give him any warning, just sit on him. This will either annoy him, or spice up your sex life. Win-win.

 -ignore it. His behavior is vexing and annoying, but probably not worth fighting over. This has the added bonus of decreasing his behavior if this is a passive aggressive attempt to get a rise out of you.

-do the same to him. Whenever he moves, take his spot. Either this will have no effect on him (in which case, try the other two suggestions), or it will help him realize how annoying his behavior is, and he will stop.

Let me know if you try any of these, and if they work!
      -Jocelyn

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