Wednesday, March 25, 2015

My Boyfriend Forgot Me!

Dear Jocelyn,
I have been dating my boyfriend for a bit now and I invited him to my sisters wedding in a little over a month, but I'm really upset that he has his brothers 18th coming up and didn't invite me, when all my friends who are close to the brother have been. He also said the reason he forgot to ask me was because he is 'too busy with college'. I was really hurt by this as I didn't think it was something you would just forget, he also doesn't seem to care that much either, but does seem excited about my sister wedding. I have mentioned it to a few people and they all find it strange and thinks he has another reason for not inviting me, but he denies it. What do I do?
-Forgotten

Dear Forgotten,
You are right, forgetting to invite your girlfriend to an event you are throwing is not something that really happens. If he did not want you there (if it were just men attending, or only close friends of his brother's), then that is acceptable to not invite you. However, he is not telling you that he simply did not want you there. He is telling you he forgot.

Is this somehow consistent with his personality? Is he the type that forgets his car keys every morning, or can't remember doctor appointments? If so, then his excuse might be believable. Some people are simply that air-headed. If he is not, and he won't admit to purposefully not inviting you, then there is not much you can do. I personally don't think this is worth breaking up with someone over (unless this is part of a string of questionable actions), but I would file it away as a red flag. If nothing else pops up, then chalk this up to a one - time event. But, if things like this occur more often, it might be time to forget dating him.
-Jocelyn